Therapy for
Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse is a form of abuse that is subtle and insidious but highly damaging to those victims exposed to it for long periods to time.
It is an attack on everything that is you; an attempt to totally disassemble and scramble who you are, any good feelings you have about yourself, and your place in the world.
Your pain is a salve that soothes and cools the narcissist's inner turmoil: hurting you is a comfort to the narcissist so it may evolve and revolve but it will never end.
You may not even recognize it as abuse, and will eventually accept you deserve it.
It is like a slow working poison - you don't feel quite right, but cannot put your finger on it. It starts out slow, and you don't even recognize it as abuse.
It takes little bites out of you, and you’re not quite sure why you feel uncomfortable.
But you’re in a seemingly safe place, so your defenses are down, getting ready for that golden relationship you have always dreamt of. You need to stay focused and positive, so you brush it off.
There are a few things your beloved frowns on about you, but you’re working on them and their shiny love will be yours again. Your perceptions of reality blur as you try to see things their way.
You don't think things are quite the way they are being presented, but going along with it, repeatedly, has proven to be the path of least resistance. You're sure you're loved, so all of this must be in your best interest.
Things still seem to be off track. You have worked so hard to make the changes needed to please the one you love. But approval never comes. It's painful and you have despaired, but it's worth it , right? All this will pass. Things will work out. You must put more of yourself into it.
Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse is a form of abuse that is subtle and insidious but highly damaging to those victims exposed to it for long periods to time.
It is an attack on everything that is you; an attempt to totally disassemble and scramble who you are, any good feelings you have about yourself, and your place in the world.
Your pain is a salve that soothes and cools the narcissist's inner turmoil: hurting you is a comfort to the narcissist so it may evolve and revolve but it will never end.
You may not even recognize it as abuse, and will eventually accept you deserve it.
It is like a slow working poison - you don't feel quite right, but cannot put your finger on it. It starts out slow, and you don't even recognize it as abuse.
It takes little bites out of you, and you’re not quite sure why you feel uncomfortable.
But you’re in a seemingly safe place, so your defenses are down, getting ready for that golden relationship you have always dreamt of. You need to stay focused and positive, so you brush it off.
There are a few things your beloved frowns on about you, but you’re working on them and their shiny love will be yours again. Your perceptions of reality blur as you try to see things their way.
You don't think things are quite the way they are being presented, but going along with it, repeatedly, has proven to be the path of least resistance. You're sure you're loved, so all of this must be in your best interest.
Things still seem to be off track. You have worked so hard to make the changes needed to please the one you love. But approval never comes. It's painful and you have despaired, but it's worth it , right? All this will pass. Things will work out. You must put more of yourself into it.
You are starting to live life through their eyes, your opinion of yourself has taken second place. With growing importance their opinion of you makes or breaks your day.
Approval from them, the little acts of kindness they occasionally throw your way have become an addiction without you realizing it.
You are willing to endure a lot of discomfort or even abuse waiting for these tidbits of love that makes your day. Despite all your efforts you are not generally allowed to feel good about yourself or the relationship.
The questioning of your values, morals and worth as a human being and partner is becoming debilitating.
You try to develop a thick skin but your shattered sense of self worth is being slowly but surely crushed.
After some time, your self esteem is crushed, and emotional stability is impossible. Depression, fear and anxiety are your norm. Emotional, physchological, phsysical and other aspects of your life are being affected. You may be having difficulties sleeping, eating, focusing. Maybe your biting your fingernails, pulling your hair, making careless mistakes at work, feeling agitated with a lack of patience towards your children, friends and family.
If your friends or family haven't experienced the unique form of abuse that is narcissism, you may feel isolated, misunderstood and confused. Their lack of ability to understand may further your feelings of being gaslit. Escaping from narcissistic abuse is not like a regular break up. Even experts who recommending going "no contact" with the abuser do not take into account the complications of being legally required to regularly communicate with their co-parent/abuser. Traditional counseling, often sought after a ‘normal’ breakup, does not come near to adequately treating this kind of trauma.
Recovery is possible. You can survive and even thrive after narcissistic abuse.
You can take your power back. You can have good moments that lead to good days, weeks and months. It is still possible to live life on your own terms post narcissistic abuse.
It might seem like waves of grief, anger, powerlessness and hopelessness keep crashing down on you. You might feel adrift without land in sight, afraid of drowning alone in a sea of post separation abuse lost within the family court system. Let me be your lighthouse. I would love to have the oppotunity to guide you safely to shore.
Post Separation Abuse:
You are starting to live life through their eyes, your opinion of yourself has taken second place. With growing importance their opinion of you makes or breaks your day.
Approval from them, the little acts of kindness they occasionally throw your way have become an addiction without you realizing it.
You are willing to endure a lot of discomfort or even abuse waiting for these tidbits of love that makes your day. Despite all your efforts you are not generally allowed to feel good about yourself or the relationship.
The questioning of your values, morals and worth as a human being and partner is becoming debilitating.
You try to develop a thick skin but your shattered sense of self worth is being slowly but surely crushed.
After some time, your self esteem is crushed, and emotional stability is impossible. Depression, fear and anxiety are your norm. Emotional, physchological, phsysical and other aspects of your life are being affected. You may be having difficulties sleeping, eating, focusing. Maybe your biting your fingernails, pulling your hair, making careless mistakes at work, feeling agitated with a lack of patience towards your children, friends and family.
Often, none of your family or friends understand what you have been through, the damage done. They think you've overreacted and just need to shake it off! This is not just a breakup, it is an escape from destruction that will never be understood. Just calm down, they say! We wish it were that easy. Traditional counseling, often sought after a ‘normal’ breakup, does not come near to adequately treating this kind of trauma.
But recovery will happen, in its own way, over time.
Conscious effort is required to speed up the process. You will eventually start having good moments, then good days, then good weeks, then a good life. '
Recovery comes in waves: all bad at first, then you catch a few good waves. Eventually the good waves take over, but be prepared to let an occasional bad wave pass over you.If you've never been through narcissistic abuse, you'll never understand it. If you have, you’ve been to hell and back.
Post Separation Abuse:
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